So, what does this have to do with your ex not contacting you. He was very cold to me (unlike him) and said he didn’t want me and didn’t love me anymore. Your ex insists it’s them — and not you. 4. Almost implying that they do want to get back together and then the next minute they can’t get a response from them. Your only form of contact is through social media. my ex kept in contact w/ me for a while after the break up and told me he wanted to try working it out again. Anyways, he ended things in a horrible way (not because we didn’t love each other but because he wanted to be free) and I basically haven’t heard from him since… until I got a letter from him about two months ago. Question: My ex’s signals are pretty mixed. I acted very badly when he broke with me, very needy, angry and verbally abusive at first and cutting off all contact when he did not give in to my demands. No apologies, nothing.. we spoke, he’d made up his mind, said his goodbyes grabbed his bags, left and a week later moved back home (8 hours away) and has never said a word since. We have been in no contact almost a month. Although we haven’t explicitly broken off the last thing I told him if it’s so emotionally draining we might as well end this. Anyway, he told that was the reason he didn’t love me anymore. He decided to not stay with me that night. They will at least respond because they care to keep you in their lives. One moment their ex is asking them something like. What did you do? If you find yourself in panic or on the verge of a meltdown because your ex has not responded to your text or call at the time you expected, the first place you should go to is inside. If you’re looking for signs your ex will eventually come back, you’re just in the right place! Emotional Momentum – Moving Things Forward With An Ex, Break From Your Ex Vs. Idk what to do its been 3 weeks and nothing from him. Online dating—and connecting deeply with people you never would have met otherwise—makes this pretty easy to do. But if your ex has told you in clear words that they don’t want contact, or refuses to respond to your texts, messages, emails, phone calls, your ex wants you to leave them alone. Only 6 weeks after his move, then only responded by text for 4 months, never spoke to me about breaking up, then posted a pic of him and new GF on FB and never texted or spoke to me again. I was going through some tough things and was a pretty sad person really. The peak of your experience together is arguably the strongest and most exciting part to think about. Put simply, human beings remember experiences based on how they felt at the peak of the experience (it’s most intense part) and the end of the experience. You are right. He said he missed and loved me. The rest of this article is going to be very straight forward. You’ve probably experienced this pendulum of emotions, haven’t you? I just wish I knew how to get through to him. It’s been 3 weeks since then. When you reach 30 days I would suggest that you reach out with a text from Chris’ articles so that you can start a conversation with him, even if you are worried of rejection, the alternative is wondering “what if”. If you didn’t already know I answer all of my comments personally. I miss him a lot but I know he doesn’t care much about this, probably doesn’t even think about me at all. (I … Yangki, what if your ex says it’s over and he is not changing his mind but does not want you out of his life, is there still a chance? I just feel it’s so strange he could do that. Hi chris my boyfriend broke up with me about 3 weeks ago after a 4 year relationship. Should I just give up and move on ? I tried for a good year after we broke up to reconcile. Whatever it takes. If your ex isn’t contacting you due to the pendulum swing, how long should you wait to contact them again? Or were they generic reach out texts for normal conversation? I feel shattered. He started dating someone new 1 month after the break up and displayed ALL the rebound signs… I heard that it’s not always a good idea to reach out if someone else is in the picture so I’ve been giving it some time. Given our on and off again history is there any chance she may reach back out? I’m planning on continuing with 30 days of no contact because he hasn’t reached out and I’m still working on myself. He still has a bunch of things at my house, and I am just confused where to go with this. I still love him very much and idk if he feels the same. Texting, Facebook, messaging or some other “remote” mode of communications may be the only way you can have any conversations with them. I left it on a good note, but he hasn’t reached out since. 9)Hasn’t processed the breakup Another obvious reason why your ex refuses to talk to you is that you’re overpursuing your … His reasoning was that he just needs time because his work and Class schedule are about to get hectic and he feels like he can’t juggle everything and he said “I promise I’m not leaving this easily I just need time”. Post that brief talk, frequency of messages went from daily to once in a 3-4 days to even a week. But if in every other conversation your ex brings up trust issues, or directly tells you the reason they not think you will get back together is because they can not trust you, you are not just doing a bad job at rebuilding trust, your ex’s mind about “who you are” is made up that they can neer take you back. Thank you. I changed my phone number and blocked my accounts from him. Why Does My Ex Contact Me Then Disappear? Anyway, I left my own house on Oct 6 until he moved out on Oct 28th. 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